8 Essential Steps for Walking in Your Purpose

Do you struggle with walking in your purpose? I’m sharing tips for walking in your purpose confidently.

Tips for Walking in Your Purpose Without Looking Back - Bianca Dottin

I’m at a point in my life where I feel good about what I’m doing. It took me years to discover what my purpose was in life. For years I struggled with whether or not the choices I was making were the right ones. I’ve always believed that everything happens for a reason but sometimes I second guess things. It’s normal.

After losing Tristan, I gained a new insight on life. We all only have one life to live and no matter what happens in my life, I’m determined to live the best life that I can. I know that Tristan wouldn’t want it any other way. After Tristan died, I gained a new purpose in life – keeping his legacy alive. It isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Honestly, it isn’t something that I always feel like doing. There are days when I feel like just curling into a ball and pretending that this nightmare ever happened.

But I can’t.

Ignoring my past has never been an option for me. I’ve always been a firecracker that has to acknowledge every single thing that has happened in my life and just roll with it. Each event is a part of me. Every single event, good or bad, has made me into the person who I am today. Each event has helped push me closer and closer to fulfilling my purpose. Now at 27 years old I can finally say that I feel as if I’ve figured out what my purpose in life is or at least a part of it.

Realizing your purpose and fulfilling it isn’t always easy though.

8 Essential Steps for Walking in Your Purpose

1. Write down your goals.

Writing down your goals will help you to stay on track. Usually I’ll write down short and long term goals that are very specific. When I’m feeling frustrated, I’ll look at my goals as a reminder of how far I’ve come.

2. Self care when things get hard.

Self care is important no matter what but when you’re faced with hard decisions or tasks, take some extra time for yourself.

3. Educate yourself.

After I discovered my purpose, I had to do a lot of research. What was it going to take for me to fulfill my purpose, to walk blindly in my faith to be successful? I needed to make sure that I had a strong foundation in order to move forward. Releasing the toxicity in my life was one of the first steps for me. I had to learn to let go of all of the people and things that were holding me back. Realizing that sometimes people are only in your life for a season was a hard concept for me to grasp but once I did, I started to excel. Stop and take a look at any and everything in your life. If it’s not something that makes you happy and fills your soul, let it go because in the end it will contribute to your demise.

4. Be fluid and go with the flow.

As a person with a Type-A personality, going with the flow is something that’s hard for me. After losing Tristan, I realized that even though I have goals there are so many different ways to achieve them. My way isn’t always the best way and God surely isn’t going to follow directions that you give him. As time progresses and you work towards your goals and fulfilling your purpose, you have to be open to going with the flow. If you don’t open up yourself to going with the flow then you’ll oftentimes find yourself frustrated.

Tips for Walking in Your Purpose Without Looking Back - Bianca Dottin

5. Learn from your mistakes.

As an entrepreneur and even as a parent, you’ll make hundreds of mistakes. Embrace them. Learn from them. It’s easy to get discouraged after making a mistake. Sometimes you’ll want to give up after making a mistake. Don’t. If you’ve truly found your purpose in life and it makes you happy, keep working towards those goals. Learn from the mistakes of your past and do better moving forward. Nothing worth having is going to be easy. You’re going to stumble, especially if you’re trying to figure it out on your own. Keep moving forward as confidently as you can and don’t look back. If you need to, sit down with all of your goals and re-evaluate things.

6. Find your tribe.

Finding my tribe is probably the best thing that I’ve ever done. Before I built a circle of people I could trust and depend on, I struggled. There were days when I wanted to give up. I was tired. Tired of working towards something that I didn’t feel was paying off. Then I found my tribe. They help to reel me back in whenever I need it. A good, well-rounded tribe can help you to reach your goals. They can give advice, help you brainstorm, and bring you back down to reality if needed. Don’t be afraid to ask for help because there’s no way that you can win alone.

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7. Celebrate your achievements.

Celebrating your achievements is equally important as learning from your mistakes. Being an entrepreneur is hard. Blogging is hard. Honestly, I never thought that I would be blogging full-time. There is so much that goes into it that people don’t know about. Publicly everyone sees that I work with brands but the don’t see all of the no’s that I get when pitching brands, contracts that fall through because the money isn’t right or there’s no money at all, or how many times I’m just blatantly ignored. It’s a cut throat industry with a ton of ups and downs.

These reasons are only some of the reasons that I say to celebrate every single achievement. I don’t care if it’s hitting 2k followers on Instagram or signing a contract for a 4-figure deal. Celebrate it! Your achievements are proof that you are doing something right, that you’re working towards fulfilling your purpose in life.

8. Embrace your emotions.

Walking in your purpose comes with a lot of emotions. A lot. Embrace every emotion. Sit with them and allow yourself to process them.

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Do you have any tips for walking in your purpose confidently? I’d love to hear them!

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  • Reply
    06.14.18 at 7:14 pm

    I think realizing our purpose is the initial first step but oftentimes the hardest! I think it is also important for us to realize that our purpose my fluctuate over periods of time. You definitely give some great pointers here.

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    Shelley King
    06.15.18 at 12:48 am

    I love this!! I am very good at writing down goals and I follow through majority of the time. I have an amazing tribe! I was a single mom for many years and I don’t know what I would have done. I’m so really bad at taking care of everyone else and not myself. That’s what I really need to learn!

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    The Social Nubian
    06.15.18 at 1:11 am

    Walking in purpose and understanding ever steps you and it effect your whole being. Is powerful. Great article

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    Sue Reddel
    06.15.18 at 2:18 am

    Such great tips on staying focused and keeping yourself on track. This is especially difficult when you are working by yourself. Thanks for sharing your methods for success.

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    Kim Croisant
    06.15.18 at 2:07 pm

    What a pretty skirt and your smile is contagious! I’d say just be who you are and love yourself first – that’s my contribution to walking in your purpose confidently.

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    06.15.18 at 2:20 pm

    All of these things are key to actually living your life well! A couple years ago I decided I wanted to be more proactive with life instead of just letting it happen to me. It has been a very enjoyable two years but it did take work and focus.

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    06.15.18 at 3:58 pm

    I could stand to learn from my mistakes instead of wallering in them. I am actually doing a few of the other steps. I just need to work on the rest.

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    06.15.18 at 5:10 pm

    I had a blog post the other week about pain in the purpose, sometimes you got the good and the bad, but you have to go through both to see what the outcome will be. I always had a problem before with worrying about others and putting their needs before my own, over time with everything that happened. I learned I needed to make sure I was at 100% before I tried to help others. This was a good reminder, thank you.

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