Getting married while pregnant is definitely not the easiest thing in the world to do. The planning, executing, and shopping all while taking care of yourself and baby isn’t easy but somehow I managed to tie the knot at 7 months pregnant. Here are some tips to help you get through the entire process.
1. Timing is everything.
If you haven’t already set a date, try to choose a date during your second trimester. That’s when you have the most energy and you’ll feel your best. Morning sickness and fatigue should all be gone by the second trimester. If midday naps are your thing then don’t plan a midday wedding. Timing definitely wasn’t on our side. When we found out that we were expecting Tristan, our date was already set. We were already 4 months into planning with just 5 months until our big day. Friends and family had already began making travel arrangements since we were having a destination wedding so there was no way that we could reschedule.
2. Don’t stress over your dress.
I tried on 37 dresses before I found out that I was expecting. 37! That’s crazy right? And I was crazy about not one single dress that I tried on. Once I found out that Tristan was growing in my belly, I knew that it would make dress shopping a little easier but I didn’t care. I tried on 5 more dresses after I found out I was pregnant. In the end I ended up finding the perfect dress online for under $1,000! Online. Can you believe that? I bought a dress that I hadn’t even tried on. I took a leap of faith because I loved the way it looked online and it had every design element that I wanted. When it arrived, it was perfect! A few alterations were necessary for my dress to fit my baby bump perfectly but that wasn’t a big deal.
When going shopping, let the bridal stylists help you find the perfect dress. Some bridal shops even have a faux baby bump that you can wear when trying on dresses. You’re not the first bride that’s getting married while pregnant so let the pros help if you choose to shop in store. Just remember that whatever dress you choose to wear on your special day won’t matter because you’ll have that extra special mama glow.
3. Include your significant other.
Don’t forget you’re in this together. I mean really in it together. You were both blessed to be carrying a baby and getting married at the same time so be sure to include your partner in all of the plans or at least as much as they want to be involved. Don’t be afraid to let him make some of the decisions. For our wedding, there were some things that I really struggled with like the design of our invitations. I couldn’t decide which design I liked better because they were both so good. In the end I let Jac decide and I was so happy with his decision. By letting him make the final decision, I took the stress off of myself and gave him the task of choosing because I knew that he wouldn’t stress about it.
4. Hydrate + Eat + Rest
These are 3 of the most important things to remember when planning and executing your wedding. You must take care of yourself and your bundle of joy(s) first. Have water and snacks with you at all times so that you are always hydrated. Having a snack on hand in between meals is smart just in case you have a packed schedule and aren’t sure when your next meal will be. Ask one of your bridesmaids or maid of honor on the day of your wedding to be the person to carry all of your snacks and to make sure that you’re drinking lots of water and eating. The last thing you want on your special day is to faint from dehydration. Trust me I know because it almost happened to me.
Resting is another big thing to remember even if you’re only able to take small naps here and there. Adequate rest will save you from those extra dark under eye circles and ensure that you’re fully rested on your big day.
This is probably the hardest thing I had to learn about getting married while pregnant. You absolutely cannot do everything yourself. It’s not impossible but it’s insane. Trust me I know firsthand. You have bridesmaids, maid of honor, and a bridal party for a reason. Use them. Figure out what everyone’s strength is and let them help you. I don’t know what I would’ve done without our bridal party, friends, and family on our big weekend. They were a big help! Especially our maid of honor and best man. If you’re a perfectionist like me and have a vision for what you want everything to look like then just make sure that you give guidelines of what you’re wanting. Don’t be afraid to ask your bridesmaids questions but don’t be annoying. Give them as much free reign as you can handle without micromanaging.
6. Hire Help
The best thing that we did for our wedding was to hire day-of coordinators. Perla and Mickey were the absolute best! I mean I don’t know what we would’ve down without them. Not only did they help execute everything during our wedding weekend but they helped with coordinating things in advance as well. They made sure to keep all of vendors on track. They even managed to wrangle our bridal party together which if you know our family, that’s no easy task at all. To this day, I joke that we’ll probably be their most difficult clients ever but they handled everything very professionally and with grace. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend them again.
7. Have Fun!
Last but not least, remember to have fun because in the end the stress is not worth it. This special day only comes once in your life so treasure every second of it.
If you’re considering getting married while pregnant use these tips and don’t forget to hire help because in the end you want your wedding to be the best day of your life and not a stressful one for you and baby.