4 Self Care Secrets I’m Sharing With My Daughter

I’m talking all about 4 of my family’s age old self care secrets that I’m sharing with my daughter. Do you have any self care secrets?

Self care is something I’m so passionate about but I wasn’t always. After Tristan was born, it felt like my world was quickly crumbling before my eyes. I had no time to do anything. I barely had time to shower each day. My lack of self care was affecting my family and I could tell. My daughter was watching everything I did and I knew I needed to make a change. I spent so much time pouring into everyone else, I had nothing left at the end of the day for myself. I learned I needed to find the time to take care of myself.

After all, a little bit of self care goes a long way.

Over time things got better and once things got less chaotic in our lives, I began to slowly get into a regular self care routine. It was hard for me at first. After going so long without practicing a self care routine I had no idea where to start. I began to think about how I would watch the women in my family practice self care when I was younger. I remember going to the hairdresser with my aunt during our summers together and spending all day getting dolled up, shopping trips to the store to buy ourselves a few new things for our wardrobe, and indulging in our favorite restaurants once in a while.

That’s where I started. Slowly but surely I started making trips to the hairdresser and nail salon, revamping and organizing my wardrobe, and most importantly fine-tuning my beauty collection with only the essentials. Once I got into a normal routine, I decided to share a few self care secrets with my daughter I learned as a little girl. These secrets were the ones I remembered because they helped me to get back to my happy place.

4 Self Care Secrets I’m Sharing With My Daughter

1. Say no.

Saying no is okay. This secret was one that was always reiterated as a kid but it was a hard concept to understand. I like for everyone around me to be happy so naturally my answer is always yes. The truth is that you really have to find a good work life balance. After Tristan was born, it had to stop. This was a big shock for Tatiana because she was used to always hearing yes and getting her way. She too was also used to saying yes to everyone and everything. Saying yes all of the time is exhausting. Once I made a change, I shared this secret with her along with why I decided to start saying no. She doesn’t always understand but I believe that as she grows older and wiser she’ll be able to make the best decision for herself.

2. Less is more.

One of the things I learned growing up was that “less is more”, unless it’s face highlighter then you should absolutely apply as much as necessary for a unicorn glow. I started to purge everything that wasn’t aligned with this thinking. Over the years we’ve accumulated so much as a family, the clutter just started to become so overwhelming. Tatiana is very much like me and cannot deal with clutter at all so we started to declutter our home together. Once we got to our bathroom we decided to only keep the natural items, free of any dyes or parabens.

3. Talking and writing helps.

Self care doesn’t always have to be a glamorous activity. Talking to each other and writing is something we’ve always implemented in our household. It’s is actually something my husband and I started together. There’s just something about talking things out or writing them down. It’s a release of all things whether they’re good, bad, or ugly. Self care doesn’t have to be hard. It just has to help you feel better at the end of the day.

4. Learn what makes you thrive.

I’ve grown up watching so many people around me live unhappy lives. I’m sure you have too. Finding what makes you thrive is hands down the most important secret I could share with my daughter. Whether it’s a long bath with her favorite soap or traveling the world non-stop with her self care travel kit, I can only hope she’ll discover what makes her happy and she should never stop doing those things.

Have you ever shared any of your self care secrets with your kids?