4 Self Care Secrets I’m Sharing With My Daughter

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4 Self Care Secrets I'm Sharing With My Daughter - Bianca Dottin

Self care is something I’m so passionate about but I wasn’t always. After Tristan was born, it felt like my world was quickly crumbling before my eyes. I had no time to do anything. I barely had time to shower each day. My lack of self care was affecting my family and I could tell. My daughter was watching everything I did and I knew I needed to make a change. I spent so much time pouring into everyone else, I had nothing left at the end of the day for myself. I learned I needed to find the time to take care of myself.

After all, a little bit of self care goes a long way.

Over time things got better and once things got less chaotic in our lives, I began to slowly get into a regular self care routine. It was hard for me at first. After going so long without practicing a self care routine I had no idea where to start. I began to think about how I would watch the women in my family practice self care when I was younger. I remember going to the hairdresser with my aunt during our summers together and spending all day getting dolled up, shopping trips to the store to buy ourselves a few new things for our wardrobe, and indulging in our favorite restaurants once in a while.

That’s where I started. Slowly but surely I started making trips to the hairdresser and nail salon, revamping and organizing my wardrobe, and most importantly fine-tuning my beauty collection with only the essentials. Once I got into a normal routine, I decided to share a few self care secrets with my daughter I learned as a little girl. These secrets were the ones I remembered because they helped me to get back to my happy place.

4 Self Care Secrets I’m Sharing With My Daughter

1. Say no.

Saying no is okay. This secret was one that was always reiterated as a kid but it was a hard concept to understand. I like for everyone around me to be happy so naturally my answer is always yes. After Tristan was born, it had to stop. This was a big shock for Tatiana because she was used to always hearing yes and getting her way. She too was also used to saying yes to everyone and everything. Saying yes all of the time is exhausting. Once I made a change, I shared this secret with her along with why I decided to start saying no. She doesn’t always understand but I believe that as she grows older and wiser she’ll be able to make the best decision for herself.

2. Less is more.

One of the things I learned growing up was that “less is more”, unless it’s face highlighter then you should absolutely apply as much as necessary for a unicorn glow. I started to purge everything that wasn’t aligned with this thinking. Over the years we’ve accumulated so much as a family, the clutter just started to become so overwhelming. Tatiana is very much like me and cannot deal with clutter at all so we started to declutter our home together. Once we got to our bathroom we decided to only keep the natural items, free of any dyes or parabens. Ivory created 99.44% pure soap for 138 years and has become our go-to because we found it was the gentlest on our skin. The pure ingredients made for a healthier choice for our family.

4 Self Care Secrets I'm Sharing With My Daughter - Bianca Dottin4 Self Care Secrets I'm Sharing With My Daughter - Bianca Dottin4 Self Care Secrets I'm Sharing With My Daughter - Bianca Dottin

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3. Talking and writing helps.

Self care doesn’t always have to be a glamorous activity. Talking to each other and writing is something we’ve always implemented in our household. It’s is actually something my husband and I started together. There’s just something about talking things out or writing them down. It’s a release of all things whether they’re good, bad, or ugly. Self care doesn’t have to be hard. It just has to help you feel better at the end of the day.

4. Learn what makes you thrive.

I’ve grown up watching so many people around me live unhappy lives. I’m sure you have too. Finding what makes you thrive is hands down the most important secret I could share with my daughter. Whether it’s a long bath with her favorite Ivory soap or traveling the world non-stop, I can only hope she’ll discover what makes her happy and she should never stop doing those things.

Have you ever shared any of your self care secrets with your kids?

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    robin rue
    03.06.18 at 4:57 pm

    I have used Ivory all my life. My mom always bought it for us and now that I am the mom, I still do 🙂

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    03.06.18 at 7:34 pm

    These are all great tips! I think that if she listens to what you have to tell her here, she will grow up a very self assured person and we can all use more people like that in this world!

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    03.06.18 at 8:23 pm

    Self care is SO important! I love that you’re sharing these tips with your daughter <3

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    03.07.18 at 1:58 am

    I love this post so much! These are great tips to share with your daughters! I am so taking notes on this one!

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    Vanessa Delia
    03.07.18 at 3:06 am

    Saying no is really great advice. Self discipline is huge when it comes to self care.

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    Lisa B
    03.07.18 at 4:02 am

    It is so important to remember to take time for ourselves. I had to learn how to say no and I am so glad I did. I have been using Ivory Original Body Wash for a few months now and I love it.

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    03.07.18 at 4:10 am

    I don’t have daughters but I will share this with my wife. Great tips for everyone truly. Taking care of ourselves is super important.

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    03.07.18 at 4:25 am

    I love these tips! These are tips we all can use. Learning to say No is a difficult one, but so very important.

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    Dawn Lopez
    03.07.18 at 4:30 am

    I’m always willing to try a new moisturizing soap. My skin gets so dry in the winter time.

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    03.07.18 at 1:14 pm

    I need to try new soaps soon to be honest. I haven’t found one that I like yet. These are really fabulous self care tips, I totally have to use some of these.

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    Adelina V Priddis
    03.08.18 at 9:35 pm

    This is fabulous! I’m raising 3 girls, and I seriously have been so lost lately. I haven’t taken care of myself in many many years. So I’m using your tips for both myself and my girls. Thank you!

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