Are sweatpants and top knots your daily uniform? I’m sharing tips for finding your mom style that will keep you feeling confident every single day.
How many of you have been in a season of your life where you just let yourself go? I have. This was my reality after having both Tatiana and Tristan. That recovery period after having a baby is just brutal. If you’ve had kids you know what I’m talking about. You’re tired all of the time, adjusting to your new life as a mom, and let’s be honest with each other – you’re really just trying to keep everything from falling apart.
Fashion has always been something that I’ve been in love with and I’ve always made it a priority to wear clothes that I love and that fit my personal style. But my personal style changed after becoming a mom. My body changed. I wasn’t a high schooler anymore that could just wear whatever I wanted. Discovering what everyday pieces to include into my wardrobe after having a baby was more of a task than I wanted to take on and I just didn’t have the time, so I let myself go and wore whatever was comfortable. Hello, athleisure!
It was maybe a year after having Tristan that I realized I didn’t have to go out looking like a hot mess anymore. I could wear stylish looks, do cute hairstyles, and be comfortable and confident all at the same time.
9 Tips for Finding Your Mom Style
1. Get out of your funk.
The first thing you have to do before discovering your new mom style is to address the source of your funk. Are you feeling down because none of your pre-pregnancy clothes fit? You’re not losing the weight you want? Adjusting to your new body and learning how to shop for clothes that compliment your new shape will be a huge game changer.
I suffered from PTSD hard after I had Tristan. It was so easy to put myself last. Once I started seeking therapy, things changed for me and I began reclaiming my life.
2. Ditch the maternity clothes and the baggy sweatpants.
One of the biggest mistakes mamas make is still wearing their maternity clothes after they give birth. I’ll admit I did it for a while and that’s okay. It takes a little bit of time to adjust to your new life. Give yourself a few months to adjust and ditch the maternity clothes.
Treat yourself to a shopping trip. Choose pieces that compliment your new curves and draw attention to the leanest part of your body. Some of my favorite pieces for this are wrap dresses, a-line skirts, and pretty much anything black.
3. Get a pair of “for now” jeans.
We all know how frustrating it can be to not fit into those pre-pregnancy jeans. With T, I jumped up a couple of sizes during pregnancy and I could forget getting back into my size 4. After I gave birth, I bought two pairs of jeans that I could fit into comfortably that made me look and feel good. I can’t tell you how much of a difference they made in helping me get back to my normal self.
Look for a jean with a higher waist, preferably a skinny cut with a little stretch. Skinny jeans will make you look slimmer.
4. High waisted is your friend.
I’m a huge sucker for high waisted cuts. Skirts, jeans, yoga pants – you name it. High waisted pants can help keep your baby pooch tucked in and make your waistline look smaller.
5. Buy amazing bras.
I remember the first time in my adult life that I bought a great bra. It changed so much for me. I breastfed Tatiana and exclusively pumped for Tristan, and if you’ve nursed your kids you know that nursing changes your breasts. A good bra can help step up your style a lot! Go into the store to get sized and find the right style bra for your body.
6. Aim for comfort over trends.
Trends come and go. You want to aim for comfort when trying to pin down your mom style instead of trends. If you’re constantly trying to keep up with the trends while getting used to your new body, you’ll just keep getting frustrated. Plus shopping for new clothes every season will get tiring. Pick up a few staple pieces for your wardrobe that you can transition from season to season.
7. Try new things.
I’ve always had a love for crop tops but after having kids I was afraid to wear them. Just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you have to ditch the things you loved before. Style them differently for your new mom body and go on your way.
8. Don’t be afraid to break the “rules”.
I like to think there are no rules when you’re discovering your style. You have to wear what works for you. If you don’t you won’t feel confident when you’re walking out of the house. Mix patterns and textures if that’s what makes you feel good. Push the limits a little when experimenting with your new wardrobe.
9. Once you’ve nailed you’re style down, create a capsule wardrobe.
Finding your style as a mom can be the trickiest part but once you’ve got it down you can build the capsule wardrobe of your dreams. A capsule wardrobe is an arsenal of staple items that are versatile. Each piece in your wardrobe can be mixed and matched easily.