Need a few tips for creating a happier mom life? Motherhood is hard guys. I’d be lying if I said it was easy. I’m sharing 6 ways to be a happier mom.
What does happiness mean to you? I’d be lying if I said that this motherhood thing was easy, especially when I’m mostly working at home with my kids. It’s harder than I ever imagined it would be but the title of “Mom” is the best I could ever ask for. Over the years I’ve learned in order to raise happier and healthier kids, I have to be whole too. I’ve always watched other moms around me try to juggle everything. They just didn’t seem happy. Their kids weren’t happy. After losing a child, having a rainbow baby and being diagnosed with a chronic illness my family has been through so much together.
I never wanted my family to be unhappy but somewhere along the line we were.
This change caused me to take a step back and re-evaluate my priorities because I needed to figure out how to be a happier mom. I took a break from everything, except motherhood of course. I spent more time pouring into my children and finding out what made them happy. Tristan loved listening to music and cuddling. Tatiana loves reading books together, family movie nights, and of course cuddling too. Once I discovered what made them happy, I slowly noticed a change. I began to pick up their energy.
Being a happy mom doesn’t have to be difficult. Something simple as getting more sleep could be the first step to happier days. There’s no secret sauce and happiness comes in all different forms. If you’re on the search for what it takes to be a happier mom, here’s a few ways to get you started.
6 Ways to Be a Happier Mom
1. Don’t always give in
Your kids are cute and cuddly but it’s okay to say no. Sometimes saying no means they’ll be upset or sad but trust me they’ll get over it. Learn to set boundaries with your kids especially as they get older. Keeping a family calendar helps me to keep my family organized and it lets my kids know when we have fun activities lined up.
2. Practice random acts of kindness
Have you ever practiced a random act of kindness? Nothing extreme but something simple like smiling at a stranger or paying for your coworker’s coffee? Random acts of kindness can not only make you feel better about yourself but brighten someone else’s day.
3. Make self care a priority
Self care absolutely has to be a priority especially for moms. One thing I’ve learned over the years is Moms cannot take care of their kids if they’re not taking care of themselves. We can push through for an unbelievably long time but eventually we’ll break down, and it’s not pretty when it happens. Practice simple acts of self care like a long bath once a week.
4. Keep a gratitude list
Gratitude goes a long way. Take a few seconds every single day to write down something you’re grateful for whether it’s a tasty breakfast or no traffic on the way to school. It doesn’t matter because even the little things count.
5. Talk to a therapist
I started therapy shortly after Tristan passed away and it was probably the best decision I’ve ever made. I learned how to not only deal with my grief but I also learned tips for managing my anxiety. Over the years I’ve gotten so much better at anxiety management.
6. Remember to breathe
This is the most important. There’s no such thing as a supermom. You can’t do it all and you shouldn’t have to. Ask for help if you feel yourself becoming stressed. Delegate those tasks that you don’t really want or have time to do, like grocery shopping. Remember to breathe throughout the day. Take things step by step. Things always tend to work themselves out so there’s no reason to stress about them.
What are some things you do to be a happier mom?
Losing the guilt is one of the best ways to be a happier mom starting immediately. When you have to say no, just know you’re doing it for their own good.
Being a mom is definitely a rough business. Making sure that we take care of ourselves is so important so that we can take care of the family.